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When You’re Just Not In The Right Mood

Ever woken up in a panic about the day ahead? A job interview or exam or a stressful day at work and wished that you could sense a feeling of total calm swimming through your veins instead? Ever have a job to do that you keep putting off and procrastinating about and would love to feel motivated instead? Perhaps you’re fretting about a date or business engagement – how great would it be to have confidence flowing through every cell of your being …

anchoring can change your mood in an instant

Well here’s the thing – there’s a really easy NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) technique called Anchoring that you can learn quickly and use anytime! We have anchors naturally occurring in everyday life – quite simply, it’s a neurological response to an external trigger. Or in non-NLP speak, it’s when stuff hits your mind through one of your five senses and causes a particular response in behaviour.

Sometimes these responses serve us, sometimes they don’t! For instance, ever smelt a perfume or aftershave and suddenly had memories and feelings of someone who used to wear it? Or perhaps heard a piece of music that’s transported you back to an event in your life and re-stimulated all those feelings you had originally? So how would it feel to be able to evoke any state of mind or emotion at will?


You can learn to do this very easily and I’m going to give you some simple tips:

  • Firstly, think of the state you’d like to evoke: confidence; motivation; calm; passion; happiness – you can choose absolutely any positive emotion that will work for you.

  • Recall a time when you’ve felt that emotion previously; close your eyes, picture that time and almost sense yourself floating down into your body and re-experiencing it.

  • What did you see? What did you hear? Was there a specific taste or smell? Really allow yourself to feel what you felt at every sensory level.

  • As you begin to feel the experience flooding back, when you’re really in that space in your mind, connect your thumb and forefinger – you know, as though you’re making an “Ok” gesture.

  • Keep your thumb and fingers connected until the second that your experience begins to subside and open your eyes.

  • Repeat this process two or three times; you can use the same event or perhaps there’s more than one event you can use to recall the same state.

  • Think of something totally random; maybe what you had for breakfast. This is a good neutral state driver – it brings you back to “now”.

  • Connect your thumb and forefinger again and experience the feelings you wish to evoke come flooding back!

  • You can repeat the process as many times as you need to be able to really feel strong positive emotion.

Whenever in the future you need to evoke the state, simply connect your fingers and – as if by magic – you’ll have all of those feelings arising again!


The great thing is that you can very discretely make this little “Ok” gesture to yourself anytime anywhere – so if, for instance, you’ve anchored calm – and you find yourself in a situation where you’re feeling anxious or irritable, simply trigger your anchor and allow that beautiful peaceful feeling of calmness to surge through your body. Simple!

And here’s a final tip for today – if you need to anchor a feeling which perhaps isn’t something you can recall experiencing easily – let’s say confidence perhaps – who can you think of that exudes total confidence? Instead, imagine floating down into their shoes – what would they be seeing, hearing and feeling? Just pretend – you’ll be very surprised how effective this technique can be when it’s done correctly!

If you’d like to understand more about this specific process or anything else to do with NLP then why not give me a call on +44 (0)7932 060360 or drop me an email and I’ll be happy to chat with you!

Be outstanding …

FAZ COLBHIE